Read the room before it escalates Spot warning signs, assess who's safe, decide whether to stay or leave—before things get worse.e.

Know what to say when it matters Ready-to-use responses for workplace comments, family gatherings, microaggressions, hostile moments, and being visible in public. No more scrambling for words.

Build your safety signal system Discreet ways to ask for help without saying a word. Choose your allies, practice your signals, be ready.

Who This Is For

LGBTQ+ people navigating hostile spaces, discrimination, and microaggressions. People who've been in the moment and didn't know what to do. Allies who want to actually help, not just perform. Anyone tired of "safe space" stickers that vanish when it counts. Here's what You Get The bobuSHIFT tool:  Feel It, Read It, Own It. The drop explained: That split-second before autopilot takes over—and how to catch it. Your three moves: ACT, SPEAK, LEAVE. Choose what protects you in the moment. 5 real scenarios: Workplace, family, microaggressions, hostile moments, public visibility. Screenshot-ready Quick Reference: Save it to your phone. Use it when you need it. Ally guidance: So people who want to help actually know how. Free. Always. Safety doesn't have a paywall.

What Makes This Different

Made by us, for us. LGBTQ+ creators who've lived it. Not theory. Not corporate training.  Built for the moment your body reacts and you've got 30 seconds to take control. Practice-based. The toolkit shows you what to do. Then you practice until it's automatic. No scripts. Just patterns. The moves are yours

About bobu

You know what gets us? "Safe spaces" that aren't. They've got the posters. The policies. The rainbow stickers. The diversity statements. And when it matters? Nothing. Why? Because those places think a policy is protection. Managers think HR handles it. HR thinks the handbook covers it. Everyone thinks safety is someone else's job. It's not. Safety is something you practise. Every day. In real time. You can't rely on the rules to protect you.  When the moment comes, the signs won't stop it. We're Luciana and Nick. We built bobu because we were done pretending a poster on the wall would protect us. "Just report it to HR" doesn't work when you're standing there, heart racing, needing to act right now. We know what it's like when someone crosses a line and your body just takes over - freeze, flight, fawn, or fight - before you can think. We're done waiting for systems that don't work. bobu gives you what actually works: Catch the drop before autopilot kicks in. Feel It, Read It, Own It. ACT, SPEAK, or LEAVE—your move, your choice. Practice on small moments so you're ready when it matters. You learn it. You practise it. You're ready. Life is the practice.